I confess I’m a church drop out. I found this little book filled with insightful reasons why people quit attending church. I found my own personal reasons listed among the many listed.
Julia goes visiting different types of churches to interview well known preachers and unknown ones to find out the reasons for declining attendence. Issues range from control freaks that are pastors or the leadership team, to no ministries for singles who long to be married, but are told instead they are meant to be single, to women feeling like there is no real place for them in the church except to be stuck in the nursery or to organize potluck dinners. It’s not mainly new comers who are fleeing, but the seasoned members who are leaving in droves. To some church has become entertainment that you watch to get a spiritual high, but are given so solid spiritual food to help sustain you in the real world.
I do long to go to church. I miss the community and the worship. I grew up in a reformed congergation. I have attended a charismatic church and a Church of Christ church where no instraments are used, to a Unity church that felt like I’d stepped back into the 70′s hippie era. Finding my perfect fit is not easy. I want to be challenged, not babied, but I don’t want to be treated as merely a woman. I would like equality. Does this mean I have become a liberal femenist? I can’t pretend that old school church satisfys. I feel the need for growth. To grow outside the box that is church. I long for a strong authentic faith. I had one as a child, but being an adult brings it’s own discoveries. It’s an ever evolving growth. I hope to find a church home where I am seen as an equal and challenged to grow.
This book was fairly well written. There are a lot of statistics and a lot of famous Christian names thrown around. It definitely made me feel not alone.
wellwateredgarden 9:46 pm on February 25, 2010 Permalink
Re: I know I’ll come full circle and be in that spot I’m supposed to be … actually – faith says that you’re in that spot all the time … believe it!